Here is a list of books that I found useful when dealing with my own limerence:


Relationships, love and limerence:


Love and Limerence - Dorothy Tenov - has to be top of the list for any limerent

Love and Limerence: Harness the Limbicbrain - Dr Lynn Willmott - an updated version of Tenov's book

Hold me Tight - Sue Johnson

Intimacy and Desire - Dr. David Schnarch

Awaken the passion in your relationship Passionate Marriage - keeping love and intimacy alive in committed relationships Dr. David Schnarch

Addiction to Love, The Art of Changing, Where Love Abides, and Recovery Workbook for Love Addicts and Love Avoidants: Introducing the Ambivalent Love Addict, all by Susan Peabody

Obsessive love - when it hurts too much too let go - Susan Forward

I love you but im not in love with you - Andrew Marshall

Getting the love you want - Harville Hendrix

The book of love - David Delvin the Art of Love -Erich Frohm

The concious heart - Kathlyn and Guy hendrix

Radical honesty and radical parenting - Brad Blanton

Mating in captivity - sex, lies and domestic bliss - Esther Perel

The Erotic mind 5 steps to romantic love - Jack Morin,

Fall in love, stay in love -  Willard Harley

Surviving an affair, Willard Harley

Love busters - Willard Harley

Effective Marriage Counselling - Willard Harley

When your sex drives don't match  - Sandra Pertot

His needs, Her needs -Willard Harley

A general theory of love - Thomas Lewis

The Eden Project - in search of the magical others - James Hollis

Confusing love with obsession - John Moore

Falling in love - why we choose the lovers we choose

The 5 love languages Gary Chapman

Not just friends - Shirley Glass

Woman who love too much - Robin Norwood

The fantasy bond - Robert Firestone



Misc Books


Boundaries and relationships - Charles Whitfield

Narcicism - Denial of the true self - Alexander Lowen

Creating the capacity for attachment - treating addictions and the alienated self-

Games people play - Eric Behrne

Toxic parents - Susan Forward

Homecoming -the inner child - John Bradshaw

Adult children - the secrets of dysfunctional families - John Friel

 The Willpower Instinct - Kelly McGonigal

The Power of Habit - Charles Duhigg



Facing co-dependence What it is, where it comes from, how it sabotages our lives - Pia Melody

Love addiction - Pia Mellody

Co-dependent no more - Melody Beatie

Choices - Melody Beatie

The intimacy factor - Pia melody


Mid-life crises


The Middle passage, from misery to meaning in midlife - James Hollis


Male related books


Crossing the Soul's River, A rite of passage for men - William Roberts

Iron John - John Blye

Absent fathers, lost sons - Guy Corneau

The Flying boy - Healing the wounded man - John Lee

The married man's sex life primer - Athol Kay


Female related books


Running with wolves 



0 # Barbara Val 2015-10-03 01:53
I bought the Tenov book which I will be getting in the post on Monday as it seems to be the "gold standard". :-) Impossible to go no contact with LO since he sits right opposite me at work. Wish me good luck... :P
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0 # Amanda Tidwell 2017-07-22 05:26
My girlfriend has LO and is going through a very rough time trying to deal with it on her own. She doesn't know who to talk to or how to live with it and I am afraid for her. Does anyone know of a way she can talk to someone who does have and them help her on how to live with it?
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