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I’m INFJ.
It first said ISFJ but N is the daydreamer within me.
Interesting post. Thanks for the insight.

Yes I’ve felt that way. It’s also been pointed out to me that sometimes I see things the way I want to see them. Limerence colours the world in a different way than reality. Also, we each have good and bad days. We each are strong one day and weak another. Keep this in mind when you judge another co...

The new girl? Is she important, no. Is she relevant, no. Does she matter, no. But she does to you. I’ve found that limerence appears to get us to focus on creating As realistic fantasises as possible. To do that, I’ve had a tendency to try and get as much info as possible from my LO about anything a...

Almost 2yrs NC for me. I think you’re right on the money there about loneliness and emptiness there. When will it stop? I suppose it depends on when we fill in that hole in our lives. If loneliness is your core issue, can you find some friends somehow? I’m currently at that stage of realisation that...

Tbh you’ve already had your rejection. She’s not into you as you’ve said yourself. Unfortunately the dopamine high won’t let you see that as you’ve put her on a pedestal in your mind. No, you don’t need rejection, you need to understand why you feel what you feel. We are addicts. We have a hole in o...

If your stalker knows about limerence then either they refuse to let go or are struggling to. Regarding timing of how long NC takes to have effect, it really depends on what reminders they have of you around and how far down the rabbit hole they are. Is your social media locked down so that stranger...

I’ve been on the receiving end like you. Unfortunately lack of contact does make things worse for the first few months. However, eventually it should die down enough to be manageable. A kindness would be to let them know about limerence, that it’s an chemical addiction powered by fantasy. Perhaps th...

Nah you’re not nuts. We overthink things which is a core problem. Try to think less. Keep your mind in the present as much as possible. Distract yourself if you find you can’t stop the thoughts and take vits for brain health. Whilst NC is the oft suggested option, perhaps if you’re strong, limit int...

Ya sounds like he’s been hurt before. Perhaps his clumsy attempt was out of the norm for him. Like an abnormal spurt of courage. In that burst of courage he likely forgot his fear but also forgot social norms. If he’s worth it for you, I’d try patience. Heavy handed, friendly patience. Hes likely to...

Limerence is an ugly beast. Externally you’re doing nothing wrong but your own mind is wrecking havoc. We have probably all felt that incessant need for contact, communication, attention. Nothing wrong with wanting to feel wanted. Platonic or erotic. As you’ve probably seen in this forum, limerence ...