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I want to add a cautionary tale here too. SS's situation reminds me of someone I knew from another marriage-related messageboard several years ago. He worked as a therapist, ironically, and his clinic was sending him and a few others on a weekend training retreat. A much younger therapist at his cli...

Another one to thank you for that link. Hit right just at the right time.

IMO, it's more about getting a better understanding of your own position, in both situations. I remember a few years ago, in another community I'm part of for spouses of midlife crisis, we discussed how we got a form of limerence after we got the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" s...

Big hugs. It takes a little time to process through you, so be kind to yourself when emotions come up.

We are restless individuals. The brain will find a way to what it believes can deal with stress. Do a self check on all the stressors, especially those that deal with loss and relationships. Dads death, kids leaving and midlife crisis killed me. Absolutely agree with this. Hormone shifts and neurot...

Wow the settlement took a few years? I hope mine will be done here very soon. We are young with limited assets so shouldn’t be too big of a deal. Good. Keep that mindset with it, that the "business" side of the marriage is separate from any of the emotions or goals for reconciliation, hon...

Wow I guess the grass wasn’t greener like he thought. How long ago did you get divorced? It definitely wasn't, in my view. And sorry for getting a bit rambly there on your thread. Underlying all of that was some deep pain for me, even amidst the sometimes humor of the situation, and always outright...

Wow it’s all so crazy how someone can do that so fast willing to give it all up and not look back. Did he ever try to come back or is he still with her? It's really been a journey. ;) I actually still have most of his things, including some very personal important items a person should have wanted....

Mine wanted to walk away with no ties to our life as well. Once he started the divorce, he had his lawyer drag it out for awhile (I think he needed to "prove" to his also-married gf that he was really going to leave me; she didn't file until the day after ours was stamped). He asked me the...

I'm sorry you're going through it, but it's good that you're moving forward. Honestly, resisting it just ends up hurting worse in the end (did for me). I hope in the future she comes to realize that she's on a destructive path. I was given great advice once to put my feelings for my former spouse in...