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by Warped
Mon Jun 14, 2021 3:58 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Anybody do Disclosure?
Replies: 36
Views: 821
Canada

Re: Anybody do Disclosure?

I disclosed and it did not end my LE. What did address it was that I went no contact. I disclosed to my LO and got rejected. I then made the conclusion that I cannot be friends with my LO. Every interaction with her would just fuel my LE. I tried my best to "just be friends", but the LE ju...
by Warped
Mon Jun 07, 2021 8:13 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: The torture of NC/Instagram
Replies: 2
Views: 129
Canada

Re: The torture of NC/Instagram

And yet still some part of my brain sees this as worthwhile longing, like she holds some kind of key to my future, like she is someone I was meant to meet, and need to know. I hate this so much. I understand the pain! You know what you need to do and trust that you can do it. One of the steps to re...
by Warped
Mon Jun 07, 2021 6:53 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Thoughts/Rumination of LO
Replies: 22
Views: 557
Canada

Re: Thoughts/Rumination of LO

I was fluid-bonded with the LO, but that as not made the recovery any easier. I did not disclose my feelings for her, although sometimes I wonder, whether I should have, during the affair. I have fantasized so many times of consummating the relationship with my LO. It drove me insane. I guess that'...
by Warped
Sun Jun 06, 2021 9:26 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Thoughts/Rumination of LO
Replies: 22
Views: 557
Canada

Re: Thoughts/Rumination of LO

Wow. That must have been intense. Do you have an SO? I fantasize about having a beer with her, confessing everything, and transitioning into a solid friend zone. I have an SO. The "friend zone" was not an option for me. I truly believe if you are limerent for someone, you can't be "f...
by Warped
Sun Jun 06, 2021 1:48 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Thoughts/Rumination of LO
Replies: 22
Views: 557
Canada

Re: Thoughts/Rumination of LO

Yes, DreamingBlue, it does get easier with time. I don't know if I could have done NC early in my limerence, now it's easier. You will stop looking for negatives in your wife, it's good anyway that you realise she is great. I can vouch for this too. My LO, although younger and more beautiful, doesn...
by Warped
Sat Jun 05, 2021 3:58 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Thoughts/Rumination of LO
Replies: 22
Views: 557
Canada

Re: Thoughts/Rumination of LO

Wow I hope you're right. I'm one month NC. I made one mistake today by tagging her in a post by someone else I thought she'd want to see, but so far she hasn't noticed it or ackowledged it. Things havent' improved that much. I just miss the hell out of her, miss talking to her, and am wondering wha...
by Warped
Fri May 28, 2021 3:57 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Thoughts/Rumination of LO
Replies: 22
Views: 557
Canada

Re: Thoughts/Rumination of LO

NC really is the magic bullet that will decrease the rumination. Went NC 6 weeks ago and I've reached the point where the ruminations are probably 10 minutes or less. She broke contact by wishing me happy birthday. We texted a bit that day (2 weeks ago), and the ruminations spiked a bit. But has ste...
by Warped
Sun May 16, 2021 9:06 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Been out of it for a year
Replies: 10
Views: 286
Canada

Re: Been out of it for a year

Does No Contact really put you on the path to recovery? I'm really happy that I'm no giving into temptation to reach out. But I want the ruminating to stop, and I want to desire my SO more. For me it has. What helps is that the ruminations become less intense and less frequent because there's no mo...
by Warped
Tue May 11, 2021 7:19 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Been out of it for a year
Replies: 10
Views: 286
Canada

Re: Been out of it for a year

Congratulations! I've only gone on No-Contact for a month now. I still have some limerent thoughts and ruminations. However, the vast majority of it is gone. And it's almost as if this long brain fog has lifted. I think I've gained a few IQ points through it. It's easier to focus, do work, read, and...
by Warped
Tue May 11, 2021 12:24 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Disclosure for Closure?
Replies: 34
Views: 784
Canada

Re: Disclosure for Closure?

I think the ONLY true NC with her is through full BLOCKING on all social media, but that would be an aggressive, provocative act that would elicit a WTF? from her. Just pretending everything is fine, while deeply addicted to her, and having access is JUST not working. I am looking for an understand...