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by Spadge100
Tue Oct 12, 2021 9:05 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: NC and Too Much Fiddling with the Bandaid
Replies: 19
Views: 1066
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: NC and Too Much Fiddling with the Bandaid

Hi AMA It’s those little dopamine hits the body craves so much that habits are hard to break. I am a year in NC now and really I don’t think about her at all. A passing thought and I now love the fact that we won’t be in each other’s lives. The switch has flipped for me. Now I just hope my wife’s af...
by Spadge100
Fri Oct 08, 2021 8:07 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Muy diary as SO:
Replies: 31
Views: 1431
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: Muy diary as SO:

Hi SO It sounds like a very difficult place to be. I am thankful my wife doesn’t seem to be limerent now the discovery was made (either that or she is very good at hiding it which I guess is possible as she hid the affair for over a year). It’s certainly tough being on the other side and I sympathis...
by Spadge100
Wed Sep 29, 2021 5:59 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Muy diary as SO:
Replies: 31
Views: 1431
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: Muy diary as SO:

I can attest to an EA being harder to get over, but a PA that goes on for some time almost always has an emotional element to it unless it’s a one night thing. My SO saw her affair partner about ten times in total, four times overnight. The images of these nights haunt me currently, but what hurts m...
by Spadge100
Sat Sep 25, 2021 10:23 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Update
Replies: 8
Views: 592
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: Update

Great to hear! I too am now a year NC and think about her rarely (although unfortunately my thoughts are now concerned with my wife’s affair which is a whole different ball game). Bizarrely everything I learned last year, about limerence, affairs, how and why they happen, and also how to deal with a...
by Spadge100
Fri Sep 24, 2021 11:45 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: My recovery is stuck in a loop
Replies: 11
Views: 635
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: My recovery is stuck in a loop

Hi significant other Has it been seven months for you now since your SOs limerence came to light? I think I am getting past the what phase of discovery. I know enough of what happened now. It sickens me to think about and the intrusive thoughts are often difficult to manage, and I am prone to emotio...
by Spadge100
Mon Sep 13, 2021 10:05 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Realising my SO also has an LO
Replies: 43
Views: 1827
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: Realising my SO also has an LO

Hi Significant Other My hospitalisation was effectively no choice. I began unravelling, and had a psychotic episode after character assassinating my wife for not loving me. There was an element of truth in it I know now, as my wife had already crossed the threshold and I believe when you know someon...
by Spadge100
Sun Sep 12, 2021 10:26 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: LO is my good friend - Please help me
Replies: 8
Views: 561
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: LO is my good friend - Please help me

You can’t be friends with an LO, not genuine authentic friends. Friends do not destabilise a marriage they add to it. Take a good critical look at the important things in your life and yourself is the best advice. Limerence is a self centred concept\feeling\emotion that ultimately serves no useful p...
by Spadge100
Tue Sep 07, 2021 5:26 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Realising my SO also has an LO
Replies: 43
Views: 1827
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: Realising my SO also has an LO

Hi all I would like to say it gets easier being on the receiving end of a PA but now a month in and it keeps hitting you. The intrusive thoughts are a killer. Days out bring back reminders when you were there before while it was going on. I’m definitely at the angry stage of the grieving process. I ...
by Spadge100
Sun Aug 29, 2021 1:39 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: I Seek Certainty
Replies: 7
Views: 294
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: I Seek Certainty

Limerence definitely ends and is the most damaging of all experiences there is and for what? Absolutely nothing. It robs you of everything. In my case my EA has led my wife to have a PA\EA largely because I couldn’t connect with her. I’m not condoning my wife’s actions, it was an unhealthy choice we...
by Spadge100
Sun Aug 29, 2021 1:19 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Realising my SO also has an LO
Replies: 43
Views: 1827
Gender:
Great Britain

Re: Realising my SO also has an LO

Hi Significant other It sure is a minefield. I am now four weeks in from discovery. We have talked more in the last four weeks than ever and she is very remorseful and attentive. It’s been hard that’s for sure. The intrusive thoughts are the worst but I know now enough of the story that I need to pr...