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Hello gargantua,

Sometimes I indulge myself and choose to fantasize about LO. But many times I feel like I have no control at all!
I spend most of my days thinking about him and it does create anxiety, yes.

I had tears in my eyes reading your story. Thank you for taking the time to write it.
It helps me a lot to think that even for people who had very severe LE, it's possible to feel much better with time. It gives me a lot of hope.

... Here you can order the free daily course as well as other resources ah yes that site is so very helpful. I bought the e-book from DrL and I found it was well worth it. Thank you very much! I can’t get the free ebook on my mobile (it doesn’t work), I’ll do it on my computer. After I read it, I’l...

Thank you Spadge for this update. I’m happy you’re now at peace with limerence. I wonder how many LS disclose it to their SO. For me, L is like an addiction, but if I try to put myself in the shoes of a SO, I would be more jealous of that addiction than of addiction to drugs, alcohol, food, work, vi...

Thank you for the clarification AMA, I understand better now. And congratulations on getting rid of your addiction to your ex-LO; I see (in your blog and in other threads, not necessarily very recent) how despicable his behavior can be.

We talked about the book « The Chimp Paradox » in this thread (thank you Spadge!). I’ve found an audio version on YouTube and here’s the link in case anyone is interested :
https://youtu.be/jJ1EUkYPG5g (public domain - free and full length).

My LO likes praising his wife on SM. They seem to be a perfect couple. But you're totally right, AMA, it can reflect reality or just be an idealized image. I have a friend who regularly declared her love for her (now ex) husband on FB; at the same time, she confided to me that she was thinking more ...

Definitely avoid the social media side... Social media is like a little hit and never a good one. People don’t post bad things so you get a glimpse into the version they wish to portray. You’re totally right! And more generally, social media can sometimes be depressing for this reason. It’s a littl...

I have a belief: I think that much of our thinking and behavior is controlled by nonconscious brain processes; and that those processes are “programmed” to help us the best possible way. But it’s not perfect: it must take into account many parameters: our memories, our beliefs, our needs, our dreams...

Thank you for this post AMA. This is helpful for me. I didn't realize how important it is for me to stop looking for information on the internet. Also what is related to him, anything that can make me think of him. I stopped on February 24th (almost a week ago). It's still difficult and I can’t stop...