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This is a very interesting suggestion, David. That in fact means that we don’t need our LOs, because they cannot offer anything that we already have! We just need to unhide that!

Spadge1000, Your emotions for her are really deep. You are in NC, are you not? I think it is perfectly normal you have these feelings for her, especially at the day of her birthday. I think you do the best if you leave this message here and never send it. I am afraid that it would come across as not...

Just for clarification, I'm not on Tinder but my LO told me she is and shares her dating life with me (which amplified my negative feeling). She shares her dating life with you while you are limerent to her? That is absolutely inconsiderate, she knows about your feelings. Do not bother! She is not ...

Dating someone else worked always best for me when limerent. It is perfectly find to date one person and be limerent to another. And being married I can tell you that it is even OK to be married and be limerent to another woman. It just happens and you have little or no control over it. Just make su...

Hello Warped, You have already posted some comments on this forum so I am aware of the background a bit. You mentioned that you already disclosed your feelings to your LO and she even offered you NC. My advice is do not do any closures and do not get back to that topic with her. You would only look ...

Let's not worry about the broken NC. Ultimately, NC is just a tool to get out of limerence, it is not the goal. And NC is not suitable for every situation anyway (for example, for mine it is not suitable either and it seems to turn out that it is also not for yours). When we are limerent, we tend to...

I think you did the right thing. There was a crisis and you acted on it in a professional manner. Even if you broke your rules. You think that he has feelings for you and that he just wants to control you, but had he had the feelings you would see it clearly. It would be radiating from all his actio...

You seem to be on a good path to recover - you have already limited contact to him and was able to say "NO" to his lures. Now you are at the crossroads between further work with him or taking a new path. Have you written down pros and cons for each of the path?

Reading several posts on this site showed a pattern that when women are limerent, their thoughts and imaginations are often sexual, whereas when men are limerent, their thoughts are caring, intimate and they rarely involve sexuality. Somewhere on this forum, it was written that Men give intimacy to ...

If you are an artisan, I can imagine how limerence positively and negatively affects your work. A few days you feel high - your creativity may be on a maximum, your fear and caution diminish and you feel that your have tremendous energy. On others you feel low - cannot get up from bed, you are rumin...