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by Alice
Wed Oct 20, 2021 2:50 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: NC and Too Much Fiddling with the Bandaid
Replies: 19
Views: 670
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Re: NC and Too Much Fiddling with the Bandaid

L-F this has opened my eyes a bit to some of my patterns!!!

Seeking validation from emotionally unavailable men 🙈

Thanks for posting x
by Alice
Mon Oct 18, 2021 3:56 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: You know what hits harder than limerence?
Replies: 6
Views: 395
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Re: You know what hits harder than limerence?

@virusbkk it sounds very much like what you are describing is PURPOSE. By upskilling you are gaining confidence, a renewed belief in yourself which reduces the need for external validation, ie the LO. I find that the more things I do for myself the less I crave his attention. When I’m feeling a bit ...
by Alice
Mon Sep 27, 2021 3:10 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: LO is my good friend - Please help me
Replies: 8
Views: 416
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Re: LO is my good friend - Please help me

Hi Saadi, I’m navigating this as well, having a constant battle with myself every day, trying to be a ‘normal’ friend to LO and trying to not feel heartbroken when I see him with his GF. Whether it’s possible to sustain this, I don’t know. I truly hope so as there is genuine love and affection betwe...
by Alice
Wed Sep 01, 2021 8:25 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: a sobering talk on love addiction and limerence
Replies: 5
Views: 335
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Re: a sobering talk on love addiction and limerence

Great video. It’s interesting he mentions dissonance. For me it’s almost like the more I crave my LO the more I experience dissonance from my values and my life…. This in turn lowers my self esteem and leads me to seek reciprocation from LO in order to feel better. Which then causes dissonance…. A k...
by Alice
Thu Aug 05, 2021 9:50 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Realising my SO also has an LO
Replies: 43
Views: 1220
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Re: Realising my SO also has an LO

Come to think of it, I think rebound limerence was a thing here at one point in time. People looking for other limerents to transfer their limerence onto. Of course me being me I verbalised my ideologies about this :)) No wonder no one tried to make me their LO! They knew I wouldn't put up with the...
by Alice
Fri Jul 30, 2021 9:45 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Why does it hurt
Replies: 2
Views: 150
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Why does it hurt

So I’m in the gym now and LO is here with his girlfriend. It actually HURTS to see them together.

This is ridiculous I have a wonderful husband and son but I want this man so badly.

Sorry just had to get it out 😞
by Alice
Tue Jul 13, 2021 2:57 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Approaching a sensitive subject
Replies: 60
Views: 1297
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Re: Approaching a sensitive subject

Totally off topic again :)) I'm good at that. I do wonder if this relationship has a lot to teach you. Now I don't want to glorify limerence here and encourage others since NC really does help provide clarity and a way out. There's this saying which goes along the lines of 'whatever you avoid will ...
by Alice
Wed Jul 07, 2021 10:26 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: If I can't get over LO now...
Replies: 30
Views: 899
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Re: If I can't get over LO now...

What I feel though now more than anything else is just sad that I'm not with her. It's obviously driven by limerence, but I just feel like we would be perfect for each other and so it makes me sad that it won't happen. I say it's obviously driven by limerence, because in reality we are not perfect ...
by Alice
Mon Jul 05, 2021 8:13 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Jealousy
Replies: 12
Views: 275
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Re: Jealousy

Ah so LOs gf has just posted a picture of them on Instagram looking happy and gorgeous, and it’s broken my heart 💔

I’ve muted her but I can’t unsee it. He’s already text me from his hol and it’s only day 1.
Red wine it is then.
by Alice
Mon Jul 05, 2021 8:29 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Jealousy
Replies: 12
Views: 275
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Re: Jealousy

I’m still reliving the kiss we had about 6 weeks ago… Oh my, if I shared a kiss with my LO I wouldn't be able to walk-talk-eat-sleep and would need a round the clock caregiver! Yes we were both very drunk and agreed to put it behind us, but obviously that’s easier for him than me! The insecure / an...