L-F this has opened my eyes a bit to some of my patterns!!!

Seeking validation from emotionally unavailable men

Thanks for posting x

@virusbkk it sounds very much like what you are describing is PURPOSE. By upskilling you are gaining confidence, a renewed belief in yourself which reduces the need for external validation, ie the LO. I find that the more things I do for myself the less I crave his attention. When I’m feeling a bit ...

Hi Saadi, I’m navigating this as well, having a constant battle with myself every day, trying to be a ‘normal’ friend to LO and trying to not feel heartbroken when I see him with his GF. Whether it’s possible to sustain this, I don’t know. I truly hope so as there is genuine love and affection betwe...

Great video. It’s interesting he mentions dissonance. For me it’s almost like the more I crave my LO the more I experience dissonance from my values and my life…. This in turn lowers my self esteem and leads me to seek reciprocation from LO in order to feel better. Which then causes dissonance…. A k...

Come to think of it, I think rebound limerence was a thing here at one point in time. People looking for other limerents to transfer their limerence onto. Of course me being me I verbalised my ideologies about this :)) No wonder no one tried to make me their LO! They knew I wouldn't put up with the...

So I’m in the gym now and LO is here with his girlfriend. It actually HURTS to see them together.

This is ridiculous I have a wonderful husband and son but I want this man so badly.

Sorry just had to get it out

Totally off topic again :)) I'm good at that. I do wonder if this relationship has a lot to teach you. Now I don't want to glorify limerence here and encourage others since NC really does help provide clarity and a way out. There's this saying which goes along the lines of 'whatever you avoid will ...

What I feel though now more than anything else is just sad that I'm not with her. It's obviously driven by limerence, but I just feel like we would be perfect for each other and so it makes me sad that it won't happen. I say it's obviously driven by limerence, because in reality we are not perfect ...

Ah so LOs gf has just posted a picture of them on Instagram looking happy and gorgeous, and it’s broken my heart

I’ve muted her but I can’t unsee it. He’s already text me from his hol and it’s only day 1.
Red wine it is then.

I’m still reliving the kiss we had about 6 weeks ago… Oh my, if I shared a kiss with my LO I wouldn't be able to walk-talk-eat-sleep and would need a round the clock caregiver! Yes we were both very drunk and agreed to put it behind us, but obviously that’s easier for him than me! The insecure / an...