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This may sound exceptionally naive and stupid, how about acceptance? There have been times when I've accepted my shitty situation where I reach a "throw my hands in the air cos I just don't care" moment and carry on. It has helped to numb the shittiness of the shitty situation. Not for ev...

Oh, well, there's your answer! You can get through one month. And six months isn't really that long. So far, I'd say it doesn't warrant changing jobs just yet. Her going away for a year is the best possible outcome. It will give you a test to see whether or not her absence helps your depression or ...

Zsababy wrote: ↑Fri Apr 14, 2023 11:54 am I guess you might want to weigh the job perks & monetary/career benefits with the benefits of getting away from your LO. I forget, how long has it been, this limerance?

Six months. However, if I can gut it out for another month, she goes on maternity leave for one year.

Nick

So if anything, does chatting here help? Curious to know since it's all about the biological/physiological side for you. I'm sorry it's such a bloody tough ride for you! Yeah, getting my feelings out here is cathartic to a degree. At least for the limerence. I don't know if it is really moving the ...

For me, the depression is kind of unrelenting so I'm bouncing around from task to task (limerence, gambling, whatever) just to get some minor distraction and relief. And possibly a dopamine fix. So, I would say being depressed and isolated primes one for a LE. Depression also magnifies the crash af...

I've heard good things about ketamine & I'm doing EMDR and it works. You'd think it wouldn't but it does. I'm doing it for an attack incident but I'm going to do it for childhood stuff. I apologize for not following too much, it's a lot to take in & apologies if this already came up, but is...

I think I'm going to try Ketamine and some EMDR stuff to see if it'll bring some relief. Well that's doing something. Do you feel your depression/state of mind locks you in? I'm intrigued as to how much limerence & depression crosses over (I'm not talking about the usual dopamine crash you get ...

The notion of fantasy vs real, is going by the fact you identify this as limerence. If it isn't limerence then perhaps it's about the qualities you admire. And there's nothing wrong with that. You'll fall out of love for her at one point or another. Nothing lasts so no need to overthink the fantasy...

You haven't yet learned to separate the fantasy from the real person. It takes time. Just checking my work logs, we've spent about 160 hours together as co-workers. And that is one-on-one alone time with no one else in the room on a joint project(s). And we talk about pretty much everything. And ac...

I wish I could think of or say anything remotely positive but right now I can’t. Can anyone? Yes, but would it make a difference? At least you are sharing your thoughts here which I hope helps, even if just a little. Thanks for the kind words of hope. This is all well and good today. But that eupho...