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Thank you for the update! It sounds like you're moving in the right direction, but I know it's really tough! I recognize a lot of myself in your situation. This week I had to make the very hard decission to quit my job, I just couldn't do it anymore. It feels like mourning, does that sound weird? I ...

Don't feel ashamed, I completely understand your emotions and would feel the same way.
An abrupt ending like that must feel horrible. But I think either way it would have hurt, the situation. Would a perfect closure be realistic?

Over time it will get better, time heals as cliche as it may sound

Welcome! I am in a similar boat. LO is a coworker. It is exhausting. I only recently started coming to terms with the fact that we will never have that close relationship I yearn for. We still interact due to mutual friends, but every interaction just seems forced and superficial. I recognize it’s ...

That's very powerful! Great message

Yes, it’s a hard long road to make up for childhood trauma. In my experience, we can never fully heal these wounds , just learn to better manage our emotional reactions that come from them and to learn self compassion. Having an understanding partner can help as all trauma is relational and all hea...

JupiterTaco wrote: ↑Sat Feb 11, 2023 2:56 pm Good job quitting your drinking! Your addiction needs another outlet or the source of your addiction needs to be found and looked at. What are you trying to avoid in life?

It's mostly childhood trauma, never knowing love as a child, neglect etc. I'm working hard on myself but it's a long road.

I feel your sigh. Why do we keep torturing ourselves like this??? It makes no sense! Freud talked about the repetition compulsion - likely a pattern setup in childhood about not feeling worthy of a healthier form of love Interesting! Reading about that, it makes total sense actually. It also explai...

Keater wrote: ↑Fri Feb 10, 2023 8:23 pm
Do you see him a lot at work or can he be somewhat avoided?

He can be avoided. In theory. I just wish I could be strong enough to do that....

I feel your sigh. Why do we keep torturing ourselves like this??? It makes no sense!

I'm new here and SO glad I found this site thanks to TikTok (love the dog btw ;) ). I've read a few topics and I finally don't feel so alone anymore in this madness. I think my story is very recognizable, no need to type it all out because you've probably heard it all. For some context; I'm a 42 old...