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I don't really have much advice to add beyond what's already been said but I just wanted to say that I am in a very similar situation. I've been going to therapy for a few weeks now and while it's helping me understand how I got here I feel so very guilty. My wife and I have been together for over 2...

@Arora92xx Welcome to the forum! This has been an extremely helpful site for me and I hope it will help you, too. I'm not an expert by any means but I will try to answer your question. I was absolutely devastated and lost when my involuntary NC began. It took me a few weeks to even muster the courag...

So, after chickening out once and thinking I had things under control, I'm seeing a counselor this Tuesday. I have to say, the pain of this experience is starting to fade. I find myself wondering how she is doing but I don't feel as strongly toward her as I once did. Hopefully I keep on this course....

So, I'm waiting to hear from a potential counselor to see if they can fit me in sometime soon. In the meantime, as I think back on my memories of the time I spent with my LO, I find myself increasingly thinking about the couple of times she didn't act very nicely toward me. Most likely she was just ...

@JupiterTaco I know what you mean. My LO was the only one who reached out to me when I was feeling alone at work, plus I was already in a bad state in other ways. It was exciting to have her pay so much attention to me. I wanted to believe she was into me. I needed it. I shouldn't have developed fee...

Thank you for clarifying, L-F. I very much appreciate your encouragement. :) I was so afraid to even talk to my wife about getting help, even though I knew she'd support me. She always has. She even told me that she'd understand if I don't want to share everything I talk about with the counselor. Sh...

L-F, thank you for your kind words. I've been pretty sleep-deprived lately due to a flareup of depression and anxiety so I'm not quite sure if I fully understood the quote you shared. Would you mind explaining a little further? I think you'll be happy to know I reached out yesterday to a potential c...

In my fantasies, she and I would be so happy together. She would be everything I imagined her to be and we'd raise her daughter together and she would think I'm the greatest man ever and be so proud of me. We'd have our problems of course but we'd work them out. We would be the perfect fit for each ...

Have you been given a restraining order? No? Then don't make anything negative of your experience. She probably never noticed or gave you another thought. She most definitely didn't see you as a close friend, just some random nice guy SO DO NOT STRESS ABOUT THE PAST! It happened. Move on. It's too ...

In short, as you've stated, you fell in love with an image of what you wanted to see. That's something you can project onto your next victim (the word victim sounds harsh but that's really what they are) unless you heal those parts of self yearning for a solution in the form of another person. That...