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Also, JT, I think I remember reading you thought maybe you had been an LO yourself on various occasions. That would fit in with my idea that shapeshifting dazzle can mesmerise people.

Wow, I can relate to that in so many ways. Past limerence experiences are notorious for making me look at things about myself or otherwise nudging me to change myself. To this day, I think I struggle more with the idea of feeling like I have to reinvent myself for every new stupid job I attempt to ...

Well, I am a writer (unpublished as I never took it seriously enough but now I'm trying to) and early on in my limerance for this famous musician, I wrote a short story about a groupie who sleeps with a musician. She declares her love & when he says, "you don't know me', and she insists sh...

Me too. I go through phases of fixating on a type of thing, like I've bought multiple pairs of silver hoop earrings. When I lost weight, I bought a ton of size 8 jeans. Although I do wear & enjoy these things, my shopping makes me live paycheck to paycheck which is very irresponsible for age 57...

It really sounds like you need a friend. Friendships are really important. I wonder if you developed one if the feelings would ease off?

Some of this I think is hogwash, too many variables to slap a label on someone.

Agreed. Most of the questions I can't answer yes or no to, much more complicated than that.

was jealous enough to read my vaguely committal BFs journal, but I was right. He was still shopping around. He even admitted that he knew I was reading it & would leave it out intentionally. He basically loved my jealousy as it made him feel irresistible, but I eventually ended it because I did...

I had a booze problem in my 20s. Smoked until I was 40. Lots of obsessive fixations throughout my younger years, on musicians and stuff. Now, yeah, I do enjoy shopping too much, despite having no money whatsoever. I have collector disease for books, records and clothes/fabric.

I've been thinking about the similarity between an LO and the shapeshifter archetype in stories, movies and myths. There's this great book I've read and reread called The Writers Journey by Christopher Vogel. It's not a self-help book but I found it life-changing. It's based on the Hero's Journey by...

Well, I'm quite through with learning hard life lessons! Enough already! Just kidding. Ha, I hear you, but...bad news, they're gonna keep coming! I think that's just how life works. Try reframing it as a new adventure. :D Your situation reminded me of a post on here years back from JohnDeux about l...