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by Chuck
Fri Sep 11, 2020 5:55 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Struggling with the one thing
Replies: 10
Views: 578
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Re: Struggling with the one thing

Over the last number of years I have become a student of, and a strong believer in, the notion of "Determinism". None of us chose our genetics, our parents, our native language, or cultural upbringing, none of it. All of these things made you who you are. Every time you have a decision to ...
by Chuck
Tue Aug 18, 2020 12:04 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Confused
Replies: 2
Views: 452
Canada

Re: Confused

A lot of things can trigger limerence. Personal challenges, like an illness in the family, can put people in a place emotionally where they might subconsciously be looking for something that can make them happy. Any kind of dis-satisfaction with where your life is at can make you feel like you need ...
by Chuck
Wed Jul 29, 2020 6:39 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Over a year and still struggling hard
Replies: 7
Views: 229
Canada

Re: Over a year and still struggling hard

“ You meant a lot to me, [her name]...of all the women I’ve met or had a relationship with you were the one I most liked and enjoyed being with. ... and now I will choose to forget you and move on, something which is long overdue on my part. Please know I will not take any further initiative to con...
by Chuck
Tue Jul 28, 2020 7:55 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Over a year and still struggling hard
Replies: 7
Views: 229
Canada

Re: Over a year and still struggling hard

Hey Limmed, That is a really tough story, and I'm sorry you've had the wrestle through it all. It's never easy. I think that the big thing you need to remind yourself now is that you've done everything that you needed to do. You offered her the relationship. You offered to smooth things over. You to...
by Chuck
Thu Jul 23, 2020 7:19 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: The drama causes LE flares
Replies: 6
Views: 175
Canada

Re: The drama causes LE flares

My situation continues with no good resolution in sight. Things lately had been going great with my LO.... ...lately he has been way more attentive than usual. WTF. I need to get out of this. And here we have the great paradox that is limerence. Things are are going great. Why? Because you are gett...
by Chuck
Tue Jul 14, 2020 7:34 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: LO birthday coming - how ?
Replies: 9
Views: 675
Canada

Re: LO birthday coming - how ?

wondering has anyone been in a similar dilemma. I am going to go out on a limb and say everyone here has been in a similar dilemma. I would say, if you ultimately want this ride to end, just let it pass you by. If you really feel that you need to at least acknowledge the day, keep it simple. Happy ...
by Chuck
Fri Jul 03, 2020 10:59 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Does this ever happened you?
Replies: 8
Views: 657
Canada

Re: Does this ever happened you?

tryingtofindaway wrote: Wed Jul 01, 2020 8:50 pm 30 seconds MAXIMUM before LO's name starts sitting on my chest.
Perfectly put.
by Chuck
Fri Jun 12, 2020 7:26 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: First day NC complete torture :(
Replies: 7
Views: 561
Canada

Re: First day NC complete torture :(

were texting daily as well. i gave in and texted him last night and i gave in and texted him this morning too. i might have to do NC because i feel like its taking a tole on me mentally. Try it this way; knowing that it is so very very hard, take it in stages. Resolve not to reach out to him until ...
by Chuck
Wed Jun 10, 2020 5:36 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Missing MAD (LO)
Replies: 11
Views: 329
Canada

Re: Missing MAD (LO)

Actually, I feel awful because my brain keeps thinking she is avoiding me because she is aware of my little secret---that I think about her constantly, that I feel heart broken (for some unknown reason), that I desperately want to talk to her. How would she know my secret. I mean we have exchanged ...