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by AMA210
Mon Jul 04, 2022 1:04 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Indiscriminate Limerence :(
Replies: 22
Views: 432
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Re: Indiscriminate Limerence :(

Still better to go NC for a period of time to get over the limerence iMJ To be fair yeah, that's what I started out to do. But due to the complicated nature of the relationship could not do it , so I did the next best thing of extricating my emotional self out of the equation.... and eventually it ...
by AMA210
Mon Jul 04, 2022 12:54 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Dog Sitting Triggers
Replies: 8
Views: 155
Gender:
United States of America

Re: Dog Sitting Triggers

Thanks for sharing, LF.
Peace and continued healing to you. :ymhug:
by AMA210
Sun Jul 03, 2022 10:30 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Dog Sitting Triggers
Replies: 8
Views: 155
Gender:
United States of America

Re: Dog Sitting Triggers

Hi LF, I honestly don't know if my my mom was bi-polar or not. I do know that she was avoidant with narcissistic tendencies (control, manipulation, hot/cold, dismissive/silent treatment) and my dad was more of the co-dependent, always aiming to please her, and of course, a substance abuser, namely a...
by AMA210
Sun Jul 03, 2022 10:04 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Awareness of Potential Limerence
Replies: 5
Views: 124
Gender:
United States of America

Re: Awareness of Potential Limerence

Thank you kindly, LF. :ymhug:
I will work with it more diligently, now that it has been brought into my awareness.
by AMA210
Sun Jul 03, 2022 3:34 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Dog Sitting Triggers
Replies: 8
Views: 155
Gender:
United States of America

Dog Sitting Triggers

I have been taking care of my neighbor's dog while she is on vacation. I'm halfway through this 3-week adventure, and I must honestly say that it's triggering the hell out of me, which is something that I never anticipated. The dog is small (maltese/shih tzu mix) and spent the first 8 months of her ...
by AMA210
Sun Jul 03, 2022 2:48 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Awareness of Potential Limerence
Replies: 5
Views: 124
Gender:
United States of America

Re: Awareness of Potential Limerence

Wow - thanks LF for pointing this out. I literally had no thought that I had done this. In fact, I had not even considered how he might have reacted or processed it afterwards. I was more concerned with finding a way that would prevent me from going back there, and this was it. Do you have a suggest...
by AMA210
Sun Jul 03, 2022 2:41 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Limerence for a co-worker
Replies: 29
Views: 991
Gender:
United States of America

Re: Limerence for a co-worker

Excellent, Edwin! Stay with it - as it will get easier with time and distance. I was 50 when my LE began, albeit married for 25 years, so it was a perfect storm waiting to happen. Hopefully, the self care that you have been doing as a result of this will continue. Although, it's not really about bei...
by AMA210
Sat Jul 02, 2022 11:53 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Awareness of Potential Limerence
Replies: 5
Views: 124
Gender:
United States of America

Awareness of Potential Limerence

Hi all. I'd like to share a recent experience of a potential limerence situation. My previous experiences and recognition of those initial behaviors that are a pre-cursor to full blown limerence is key to its prevention. For the past two years, I have done my grocery order online at Walmart and then...
by AMA210
Sat Jul 02, 2022 11:29 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Limerence for a co-worker
Replies: 29
Views: 991
Gender:
United States of America

Re: Limerence for a co-worker

I agree with LF - it would be advantageous for both of you to discuss this, as adults, outside of the work environment. IMO, if she isn't willing to do this, then the game will continue to play out. I wasn't too surprised to read that the tables have turned and she is now being very nice and even af...
by AMA210
Fri Jun 24, 2022 6:43 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Limerence for a co-worker
Replies: 29
Views: 991
Gender:
United States of America

Re: Limerence for a co-worker

Hi Edwin, Welcome to the forum. If it's at all possible, please try to end the rollercoaster of push and pull/hot and cold with this co-worker. Within my own LE, I was on this ride for over six years, and it never improves and the LO doesn't change. The only aspect that holds the potential for chang...