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In my fantasies, she and I would be so happy together. She would be everything I imagined her to be and we'd raise her daughter together and she would think I'm the greatest man ever and be so proud of me. We'd have our problems of course but we'd work them out. We would be the perfect fit for each...

"The last thing that I want you to do is to think that you need to become someone more 'conventional', emotionally-flat and unreactive, because this is a). impossible (suppression never equals healing) and b). entirely unnecessary. Serial limerents are normally quick-witted, verbally-expressive...

"I don't know how the average person survives the period of limerence, that chemical insanity of early love, in the age of text messaging. How we avoid crashing our cars, walking into walls or out of open windows" Nina Renata Aron, Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls: A Memoir of Women,...

katewatson2024 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 28, 2024 3:46 pm I feel like she is putting a distance between us although she says she is glad we talked about it and our friendship is stronger than before.

I'm confused? The friendship is stronger but more distant?

Sounds like a story I've heard hundreds of times Kate. One of friendship & bluring of the lines. I can't suggest any particular therapist. You mentioned that you'd be afraid of being labeled, this maybe something worth looking at. What scares you about being labeled? Because of the amount of sto...

"It was possible she might not have the right feeling after all, that she wasn't in love, wasn't in limerence, but was in some unnamed place alone."
Catherine Lacey, The Answers

"I had no technique for dealing with him: only an overpowering, unnerving, irrational, chemical desire to be with him."
Elaine Dundy, The Dud Avocado

"Limerence is an obsessive, unrequited love. It is actually a disorder. A disease if you will."
Elizabeth Cohen, The Hypothetical Girl

When do I get to be happy if not now? Hey Hurting Heart. I understand your relationship with your husband is less than ideal, and yes, you deserve to be happy. Have you considered leaving your husband anyway? What will you do of the other man doesnt want to leave his wife or have an affair which I ...

IMO two can be limerent but highly unlike unless the other person has told you they are limerent. Limerence is in the head so impossible to see. Think of it like depression, someone can show signs of depression but not necessarily be depressed. Only they could tell you if they were. Was thinking ab...