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by Acrobatica
Sun Jul 05, 2020 9:15 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Steps I am taking.
Replies: 41
Views: 3829
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Re: Steps I am taking.

I am so happy to read this post from you Phoenix. I believe that there are people in the world who sometimes serve as angels- under whatever belief system you want. I am glad you had this conversation in a human way that resonated with you. I know I had to have multiple people point out how badly LO...
by Acrobatica
Fri Jul 03, 2020 7:11 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: I sent LO a message telling him...
Replies: 12
Views: 746
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Re: I sent LO a message telling him...

I don't know if I will ever be 100% free from being susceptible to limerence. But I do know that I am 100% free (or as close as possible) to being free from the LO that brought me to this forum. And deep in the muck of that, I couldn't imagine being happy without him. I now truly understand that thi...
by Acrobatica
Fri Jul 03, 2020 12:44 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: DO NOT RESPOND TO NODAYDREAMING
Replies: 57
Views: 3072
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Re: DO NOT RESPOND TO NODAYDREAMING

Circuses were, and still can be, a place that people who feel rejected from society can go to form a new family. That’s why so many of us are attracted to the concept of running away to join the circus. Modern circus is often about combining athleticism and art, exploring themes of trust, balance, a...
by Acrobatica
Fri Jul 03, 2020 12:35 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: I sent LO a message telling him...
Replies: 12
Views: 746
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Re: I sent LO a message telling him...

It is completely ok to call out people for shitty behavior. And it is completely normal to be angry at people who treat you poorly. Those are normal emotional responses. I think one of the issues with limerence is we were taught by our FUFOO that our normal emotional responses were too much, or we w...
by Acrobatica
Wed Jul 01, 2020 4:20 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Little things
Replies: 12
Views: 700
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Re: Little things

Idi: All my friends are saying this last month is insane because all the planets are in retrograde and there are a million eclipses. (Exaggeration there.) I don't really believe in astrology, but I like blaming everything on this. Because then there will be an end. I am starting to feel a spark for ...
by Acrobatica
Wed Jul 01, 2020 4:07 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: A strategy gone awry?
Replies: 17
Views: 531
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Re: A strategy gone awry?

I just wish all this learning didn't have to be so damn painful. I wonder what the hell I did that was so bloody awful I have to go through this. Was it a past life? I'm no saint but still... They say we are here to learn. Best explanation is that it took a real kick in the head to wake me up. Ha! ...
by Acrobatica
Wed Jul 01, 2020 3:52 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Steps I am taking.
Replies: 41
Views: 3829
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Re: Steps I am taking.

When I left LO, on the 11 hour car ride home, I stopped at a rest stop (where we had so many rituals because much of our relationship was road trips) and I ceremoniously unfriended him on everything. Do it. Unfriend. My willpower is not great. I still looked him up some times. And I stayed friends w...
by Acrobatica
Wed Jul 01, 2020 11:27 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Dislosing suffering from limerence to a friend and their reaction a bit hurtful
Replies: 10
Views: 579
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Re: Dislosing suffering from limerence to a friend and their reaction a bit hurtful

Over the years, I’ve told many many people. Almost everyone, except for ex SO, has been kind, understanding, and supportive about it. I have also bonded with many who have similar issues. Through being open about it, it has made me realize I have nothing to be ashamed of. Feelings should be felt. Ac...
by Acrobatica
Wed Jul 01, 2020 3:24 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Steps I am taking.
Replies: 41
Views: 3829
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Re: Steps I am taking.

Sending encouragement Phoenix!
by Acrobatica
Tue Jun 30, 2020 2:45 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Steps I am taking.
Replies: 41
Views: 3829
France

Re: Steps I am taking.

Yes. LE is very much like a drug. I completely understand your fear of loneliness. Is there anything that you like to do alone? A favorite movie? A book? Really easy murder mysteries or fantasy fiction help me here. It is something that you can only do alone. And getting lost in a book is a wonderfu...