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Helpmeplease wrote: ↑Wed Apr 24, 2019 8:37 pm.

When it enters your mind, let is exit too, without letting it sit there for analysis (if possible!)

I love this idea. I will have to try it.

Hi AK, I hate being needy/clingy/jealous, so the face I show to the world is the opposite of any of those things. This is about you, and even though you are on a journey, the LO will sometimes get caught in the cross hairs as the object of your desire. Or better yet, the object that you are misfiri...

I wonder if when limerant for someone, if those feelings will always be dormant like the chicken pox virus. Yes, this is a virus. Contact with LO multiplies it and emotional intimacy causes a raging fever. It sounds like getting a reaction out of you builds his ego. Maybe next time just say stop, t...

@HMP: Sorry you have felt the same way but thanks for the support! I cannot tell whether or not he does these things (long history of similar type comments) to get a reaction from me or because he’s just being himself/comfortable around me. Do you think your LO tries to provoke? Thanks for validatin...

2 things 1. Its part of the process - the woopsies, the... I just sent a text, he/she caught me looking, I still care, I still have feelings (something that takes years to overcome by the way, but dont let that put you off), and never beat yourself up for taking a backward step. 2. When did you fir...

Ugh, I’m sure you’re right.

Maybe just a slight relapse & I’ll bounce back. Crazy how even when you have all of this knowledge your emotions play tricks.

My LO and I are close friends, don’t talk about anything that happened between us (EA). I’m just trying to get past it in my mind. I was doing real good, feeling sane & peaceful & posted my revelations the other day. My worst hang-up is jealousy/possessiveness. Always has been; guess I’m jus...

Wow!!!! Some disagree with telling your SO, but in much of the faith-based relationship material I have read this is encouraged. What you have done is exposed the relationship with LO to the light. The secrecy of it is part of the thrill; often affairs (although you weren’t quite there yet) break up...

You’re a good bit younger than me and also your situation is different but you think exactly like me. What would be the point of disclosure? To get it off your chest? What do you want him to do with the information that you have feelings for him? You say you don’t want an affair. So you just want to...

Well I ended it abruptly, told her we were done and went NC. So it’s not like she’s chosen to see them instead of me as such. But of course I do wonder what happened, why she didn’t fight for the friendship. Me personally, maybe it’s an ego thing, but I will not fight anyone who tries to end a rela...