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by Alice
Sun Jul 04, 2021 11:09 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Jealousy
Replies: 12
Views: 277
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Re: Jealousy

JupiterTaco wrote: Sun Jul 04, 2021 10:54 pm That would do it. What about your parents?
I’m an only child with a need to feel “special “.

Oh god I’m a cliche!
by Alice
Sun Jul 04, 2021 10:24 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Jealousy
Replies: 12
Views: 277
Great Britain

Re: Jealousy

How many times can you look back and acknowledge that experience and dynamic with other people? Yes lots. My LO is my sports coach and my last LO was my previous one….. The comparisons with others runs deep too, I was insecure in the beginning of my relationship with SO about how I compared to his ...
by Alice
Sun Jul 04, 2021 6:47 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Jealousy
Replies: 12
Views: 277
Great Britain

Jealousy

Hi guys, So LO has gone on holiday with his gf today and it’s hit me hard. I keep picturing them having a perfect time and wishing it was me there with him instead. I 100% know that can never happen, he’s 10 years younger than me, I have a SO who I have a brilliant marriage with and the feelings are...
by Alice
Wed Jun 09, 2021 4:16 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: A typical maddening moment
Replies: 8
Views: 222
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Re: A typical maddening moment

Oh no, it was the best sex ever with LO, right? Damn. Yes, I bet that's hard. You have to find your way back. All the stuff of imagination. Hard to even write this...but I had several LOs over this long painful journey and had sex with most of them. One of these faux-soulmates was the most gorgeous...
by Alice
Mon Jun 07, 2021 8:28 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Thoughts/Rumination of LO
Replies: 22
Views: 489
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Re: Thoughts/Rumination of LO

Having drunkenly kissed my LO it’s made things worse. I keep reliving it and ruminating in it despite the fact I can’t really remember much. It meant so much to me and seemingly nothing to him. Still seeing him at the gym too with his bloody girlfriend and pining when I don’t get any contact. I hate...
by Alice
Fri Jun 04, 2021 10:03 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: I'm stuck. Help?!
Replies: 109
Views: 3417
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Re: I'm stuck. Help?!

Sometimes the reasons are other, in addition to filling a gap as a couple or individual: Breaking the monotony, forcing SO to change, revenge for SO fliirtations,seeking adventure, freedom, independence, having fun, even abusing another person ... There are also other more basic explanations, perpe...
by Alice
Fri Jun 04, 2021 1:40 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Thoughts/Rumination of LO
Replies: 22
Views: 489
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Re: Thoughts/Rumination of LO

[/quote] A year ago the Covid lockdown provided a much needed NC to break the pining and non-stop ruminations. Last several months I've been seeing her 3-4 times a week, and honestly it is enjoyable, but I think there's been some kind of evolution in my mind, the rumination is no longer the plague i...
by Alice
Tue May 25, 2021 7:47 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Newbie please help
Replies: 8
Views: 208
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Re: Newbie please help

Thanks for your kind replies. So we agreed to put the kiss behind us and things have been pretty normal, but tonight his girlfriend was in the gym and seeing them together just about broke my heart. I absolutely know that this man is not for me, that rationally we have no future together but my dopa...
by Alice
Wed May 19, 2021 10:07 am
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Bordering on insanity this weekend
Replies: 33
Views: 720
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Re: Bordering on insanity this weekend

All of this rings true with me too. I feel like I’m going insane torn between wanting to save my marriage and wanting contact with LO, replaying scenarios and ruminating on him saying his feelings are platonic. It’s like a horrible rollercoaster of anxiety and obsession. Sorry I’m no help but you’re...
by Alice
Tue May 18, 2021 2:40 pm
Forum: Limerence 101
Topic: Newbie please help
Replies: 8
Views: 208
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Re: Newbie please help

I would think that if you view someone as platonic/friend, then it wouldn't even venture into that territory, regardless if alcohol was involved or not. I think this is why I’m so confused. Surely it can’t have just been me kissing him! As we know uncertainty is just more fuel isn’t it. I’m also ve...