Limerence can happen at any given point in time in a relationship, even in an imaginary relationship. Sometimes it's at first glance (or via text, movie, etc), or after knowing someone for a length of time. IMO it's the result of a combination of neurobiological, genetic, behavioural, cognitive, and environmental factors that trigger the limerence episode in a specific individual at a particular point in time.theorina38 wrote: ↑Wed Jun 16, 2021 8:13 am What amazes me is that I have not always been limerant for him. It hit like a bolt of lightning - I see it now.
I agree. At some point they play a part, and that your brain isn't playing tricks. The only thing here is that there isn't any scientific proof to back this (that I can find). But that doesn't mean it's not true. I like to think it has something to do with transference/countertransference. It can get a bit woo-woo-ish. Incidentally, a lot of great theorists have many critics.theorina38 wrote: ↑Wed Jun 16, 2021 8:13 am I think it's about my emotional life and it's not that much about him. But I do think feelings were kind of reciprocated at some time. He was attracted for sure, I don't think it was my brain playing tricks on me (he was single back then).
Sorry to hear his latest news is hard to see/hear. You are not alone facing this painful condition. We're all here to support you.