"Men Like Younger Women"

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So there are a lot of articles and forum questions that go into this fact so it probably didn't just pull itself out of thin air. Some people think it's purely biology that men are attracted to younger women over women their age or older, and others think it's more psychological, such as having someone to control or manipulate or being intimidated by women who (tend to be) older who are more experienced, intelligent, worldly, etc. Maybe it's both?

On a similar note, it seems that IME observing women (and some men) as they get older and have been through a marriage or more, that they do get more jaded and this is also a reason that comes up around men going for younger women. Is the reasoning for this that it was purely hurt from their partners or is it childhood issues and abuse catching up with them or a little bit of both? Is it a defense mechanism for not feeling attractive, appreciated and/or wanted?
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I think it biology at play, men want healthy eggs to reproduce their genes (the perception being younger attractive woman provide healthier eggs) and woman want resources to support their offspring.
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The question this brings to my mind though is the rising number of older women younger men relationships. I have heard that the specialist dating sites for this is getting more popular with more men even registering than women. These men obviously don’t prefer younger women. There were two recent articles in Daily Mail. One with men saying they were struggling to find the right woman around their age and were not interested in immature much younger women. The other article was about middle aged women (fit and beautiful) complaining that they found men their age to be boring, fat and unattractive. They received more interest from younger men who were definitely more appealing to them but they were worried about what people will say.

I personally find younger men more appealing because they tend to care more about the way they look and engage in interesting activities outside work. I am one of a growing band of middle-aged women who think and act young and put in a lot of effort to stay slim, fit and energetic.
If I became single I will be happy to date younger men for this reason but of course it is more of fitness than age. My maximum age gap will be 15 years younger.
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I think it also depends on the age group . As for me ive always been attracted to older women, at least a few years older than me. I cant stand 'younger' women at the moment, younger than me. Sorry i don't meant to sound like an asshole.
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Yes, there is definitely the biological/reproductive piece. But as with other human behaviors, we have the cognitive ability to override it. Kind of like we have to do with limerence, I think. We fight urges that we know perhaps are not in our best interest or might be unsustainable for the long haul. In terms of the dynamic being flipped -- older women, younger men -- absolutely.

When I went back to take some computer courses at college, I met a man who was 15 years younger. I thought he was older, he thought I was younger, so our perceptive ages met in the middle. We struck up a friendship in class, which he seemed eager to pursue, and ended up becoming lovers. At one point he tried to convince me that the age difference was no big deal, because his aunt was that much older than his uncle. When we drifted apart, he became an LO to me. It was kind of backwards, but I had no idea about any of it.

I think the older/younger thing can happen in numerous ways. Only recently have I been attracted to older men.
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I have always been attracted to women who are intelligent and secure. I guess it's chasing what I wished for in my mother.

Looks are important but only part of the puzzle for me. The current LO APPEARS to have the combination of looks,intelligence,security and warmth of character that I have always wanted in a wife. My DW has the 1st 2 characteristics but not secure in herself nor very warm. A lot of it is probably due to me,but I'm sure she has her own issues to work on.

I have been attracted to older women most of my adult life. I never seemed to appeal to women that my peers would chase after.The reasons are many for being attracted to older women.
1, I find that older women are more mentally mature,that they have been through the bullshit of life.
2. An older woman who takes care of herself must be really confident
3. Are not sexually shy
4. Are better at conversation especially philosophical ponderings

The one relationship I had before marriage was with an older woman. In a different time and place it would have been the ideal relationship I suppose. I had a dream about her a few months ago, in the middle of the latest LE and before I learned about limerence.
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There's also the fact that my eyes are still atttracted to the same things they were 30 years ago. It's external, and vicariously self hasn't aged. In these moments, one is not allowed to externally reflect on ones own aging. That's depressing to type.
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marko wrote: Tue Oct 24, 2017 5:37 pm There's also the fact that my eyes are still atttracted to the same things they were 30 years ago. It's external, and vicariously self hasn't aged. In these moments, one is not allowed to externally reflect on ones own aging. That's depressing to type.
Depressing but spot on, I'm afraid. Oddly enough, both my LO and I are trapped in adolescence, albeit in different ways. He has refused to do anything (other than keep a job) that smacks of settling down or committing. I have done the family thing for a long time but refused to fully commit to it, given the limerent affairs.

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