What Annoys You About Your Own Gender?

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Re: What Annoys You About Your Own Gender?

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Of course #notallstraightmen and also of course #notexclusivetostraightmen (so please don't come @ me over these huge generalizations):

Our typical gender training that is all about not being like 'girls.' Therefore it's considered normal to get emotionally withdrawn starting around 13.

Friendships w/other men are often shallow and not as meaningful/intense, as, say, women's friendships.

Not really 'getting' women's need to zero in on the emotional content of a discussion, argument, etc. our tendency to want to jump immediately to a solution. "Just do this and it'll be fine."

All the domestic bad habit training we get. We don't 'see' dirt. Female partners sweep it up / pick it up. The next generation watches and learns. Repeat.

Talking over other people, interrupting, taking up too much space.

Reacting poorly to even mild criticism more often than not.

That a huge minority of us talk like movie tough guys, or like dudes in the Goldman Sachs elevator, even if we're skinny nerds: "I'd f'n kneecap that idiot, blablabla." Humour like this that goes on non-stop (even if it's funny sometimes, it's not when it's non-stop);

Dudes who are nothing special lookswise, criticizing women's looks.

Emotional inarticulateness. (If I could have a few superpowers, one of them would be to be able to describe exact shades and tones of emotion.)

Optimistically, I really believe that all of this could be unlearned / tamped down somewhat.
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Re: What Annoys You About Your Own Gender?

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The prevalence of toxic masculinity in general.
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I'm so bloody sick of the image/expectation of women to be nurturers/communicators. I've met VERY FEW who ever came close to being such.
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Re: What Annoys You About Your Own Gender?

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Toxic masculinity in general.

EDIT: My bad forgot i already responded to this thread.
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Re: What Annoys You About Your Own Gender?

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Men who talk about the success of their sports team as though they had something to do with it.. treating sport as though it’s more important than world events.
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