Acro, I agree with your comment about limerence, and I've remained married for those same reasons, but the difference between us is that a) my SO hasn't been abusive and b) he's trying to grow along with me (at least now). I would go as far as to advocate for divorce if those two conditions are NOT present in the marriage.Acrobatica wrote: ↑Sat Oct 19, 2019 2:25 am Maddie.
I think limerence is a wake up call that there is something off in our primary relationships.
I am not advocating Divorce For All!! Whooppee! But part of me does feel this way a bit. For myself, I stayed far too long in a deeply unsatisfying unhappy relationship because . . . (1) I didn’t know what a loving kind honest relationship looked like. I had no models. (2) For the kids.
Hallelujah for working through limerence; it is hard, but the freedom you experience when you blow away ALL of the fog is wonderful!