Limerent dating adventures

A place to help from being limerent again and how to cope with limerence in future relationships.
Acrobatica
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Thanks for the feedback all.
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NoDayDreaming

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i guess i should clarify. you're right that we can't control attraction, but we can control what we do with it. my theory is, if we avoid thinking about the unavailable person in sexual or romantic terms, no limerence will develop despite the attraction.
Acrobatica
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moreissuesthanvogue wrote: Wed Oct 16, 2019 1:39 pm It’s on an on going process without any quick fixes. I have found going low contact is just a slippery slope into a full blown relapse. It’s impossible to be an occasional “ user” and expect to recover. You are heading in the right direction with the no contact. My motto is it’s easier to stay off of him than it is to get off him. 😜
I'm am going to make this my motto if things with SO don't work out and I get back into the dating world! Thanks, MITV!
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Acrobatica wrote: Wed Oct 16, 2019 6:27 pm
NC is done out of respect for myself and my own feelings and the realization that I cannot change the way I feel, however much I may want to.
Preach, my sista!
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NoDayDreaming

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Acrobatica wrote: Fri Dec 06, 2019 9:09 pm 1) LOs are narcs, and or 2) LOs really do like us back.
i agree 100% with what you said, but there is an option #3: LOs benefit from the attention while not fully narcissistic, lets just say needy or troubled. that how it was in my case. one of them was borderline narcissistic alright.

BTW, i see that you're doing quite well yourself. Congrats. Believe me, good, honest, sensitive guys do exist despite the urban legend. but all that and single? hard to believe, unless... LOL.
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