You're absolutely right. That is extreme, and she has no reason to do that.AMA210 wrote: ↑Thu Oct 08, 2020 12:09 pm @MrSpock: I don't understand why this was done. It's not like you are/were actively pursuing, chasing, or trying to infiltrate her life. You haven't talked with her for months, so this just seems like an extreme reaction to me. In fact, it kind of reminds me of how my co-worker acted. If I said something he didn't like, he would just shut down and ignore me. This happened several times and I didn't understand that behavior. After a lot of analyzing and thought on this, my conclusion was that he had a lot of the behavior patterns of covert narcissism. Now I am not suggesting that she is the same, but any extreme reaction to something trivial is triggering something major. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise, albeit a painful one, but will move you to the next step of healing this.
Back then, in her last IG message, she said that "she has been very patient" (and I never understood how come) and asked me to never write to her again. I responded "OK" and that was it. There was no need to block me.
Furthermore, I remember now that some time after that, maybe a couple of months, I landed on her IG page and it "had no posts", which is how you see the IG page of someone you are not following (or as in this case, removed you from the followers list).
So, she first remove me from her followers, which I can understand, as in fact I did the same and unfollow her myself. But, this shows that she blocked me after that, which makes no sense. As you said, I didn't do a thing.. I never, ever, pursued or chased her, or anything.... even in the TKD classes, which is the only place in which we interacted, I completely minded my own business ever since she ghosted me. She just stopped talking to me, and I didn't try to talk to her back anyway at all. So, blocking me makes no sense, and its quite extreme.
I have no idea why she did all these things she did. And I will never know because we don't have, never had, a relationship that would let me get to know her, to figure it out.
But right now I do see one thing crystal clear, and it's the one thing that ultimately really matters: she doesn't care about me, period. She didn't just blocked me in the past, she left me blocked for ever and ever (it's been a year and half already). That means that even if blocking me was an extreme reaction, if she had an ounce of interest for me, she would have unblocked me by now. But she hasn't, and that shows that she just never ever thinks about me at all, and would have never had any intention of re-connecting in any way.
So yes, this is an absolute blessing! it has been the hope that she might one day like me back the thing that has kept me from letting her go and move on. Now I know for a fact that that was never going to happen.