Question-- trying to back out of this "relationship"

[HopelesslyDevoted]

I really thought that I could be friends with my LO but I have to accept that it's just not possible. I was always like a moth to a flame with him when we dated years. Trying to be friends now is like playing with fire and my wings are burning.

It makes me incredibly sad to admit that I have to give him up completely, I'm not sure if I'm strong enough, but I'm trying.

[Maddie]

yes, you are strong enough! granted, it is hard because there's grief involved...maybe we could think of it as "one day at a time" vs "I'll never talk to him again." think that would make it easier? then when days, weeks, months, years pass we can look back with fond memories (if there are any), but remind ourselves that it was a mistake and that it burned us-- so we don't go back.

[HopelesslyDevoted]

That's a great idea. I've changed my signature to list date of last contact, who contacted who, what form it took and then I'm going to add a full stop every day since that date so I can track my progress.

I'm going to treat myself with something at milestones like a week, two weeks, a month etc. (If I get that far! I've been tempted twice today already but talked myself down). I came here to read and post instead. Checking for replies here beats checking my text messages every five minutes!

[Maddie]

It truly is better!