I received this by way of an old academic connection from the precursor to this forum - tribe.limerence.net.
Its a study being run by an Assistant professor of psychology at Coventry University in the UK, Dr. Daniel Waldeck
Here is what Dr. Daniel is asking for:
My name is Dr Daniel Waldeck (Coventry University) and I’m currently conducting a research project testing the validity of a new measure of Limerence. This study has been approved by HLS Coventry Ethics P110039. This research study will involve participants completing an online survey which takes approximately 30 minutes to complete. All answers and results from the questionnaires are kept strictly confidential and the results will be reported in a research paper available to all participants on completion.
Please find the link below for our study:
Joking. Just popped on to say it might pay to pin this to the top of the thread until it's past its use-by date?
Absolutely - still feels like Sisyphus at times and i dont think awareness has been raised much if at all in the therapeutic community over the past decade
I still stand my ground when it comes to being treated by someone who hasn't experienced it themselves.
In my opinion, there isn't any kind of understanding without experience. It would be like having a midwife who hasn't had children, explain levels of pain.
Such a good question. I felt shamed when my therapist didn't take my limerence seriously, describing it as just a crush. It would have helped to have a T that totally got the agony and ecstasy that limerence was/is. For sure, if you can find a goof therapist ( a challenge in itself as many in my judgement are still acting out their own Parental Rescue Fantasies) ) that has endured limerence than that would be best. If the choice is between a good t that hasn't had L versus a not so good with experience of L, id go for the better T.
Being a client feeling ashamed would have been awful.
After doing the survey it dawned on me... In my opinion (and I'm full of them ) limerents make good daydreamers, they are good at fantasising. What happens if one recognises they are no longer good at fantasizing? Is it a part of recovery? Maturity? What? My fantasising button is broken. I used to drift off to sleep creating all sorts of stories. Now? I'll try (because I know its a way for me to drift off half way thru), but I just can't stick with it. My mind will drift off reflecting upon the day or my to do list, but never a fantasy.
Would make for an interesting discussion regarding outcomes, or those who find they are no longer limerent. Also, do people who have never experienced limerence daydream? It would be good to compare limerents to non-limerents and limerent-prone people. Incidentally, what makes someone limerent-prone? Trauma? Brain chemistry? Fascinating. We need a lot more research done.
Wow, you are right, same here! It's either my limerent fantasies or nothing... Though I have to say now that I am over the worst of my limerence, some of the fantasies came back, at least for short times...L-F wrote: ↑Wed Aug 24, 2022 10:30 amMy fantasising button is broken. I used to drift off to sleep creating all sorts of stories. Now? I'll try (because I know its a way for me to drift off half way thru), but I just can't stick with it. My mind will drift off reflecting upon the day or my to do list, but never a fantasy.