woman gets ghosted by soul mate after leaving husband

[BabyKhloee]

L-F, I’m familiar with that quote and it makes me wonder when do you actually know when love yourself enough? Cause we can say that we love ourselves and accept our good and bad traits but how to actually know that we really *feel* this way and it’s not just something that we tell ourselves? Cause in my case, I am self aware of my flaws and things I need to work on but I think that we never stop working on ourselves so where is that point that we know that we finally got to the point where we really love ouerselves?

[David]

For me, it was accepting I was perfectly imperfect and always will be. Perfection is an impossibility for human.

[L-F]

L-F, I’m familiar with that quote and it makes me wonder when do you actually know when love yourself enough? Cause we can say that we love ourselves and accept our good and bad traits but how to actually know that we really *feel* this way and it’s not just something that we tell ourselves? Cause in my case, I am self aware of my flaws and things I need to work on but I think that we never stop working on ourselves so where is that point that we know that we finally got to the point where we really love ouerselves?

Good points BabyKhloee. How much are we in our heads as opposed to being in our bodies? Do we think we are there or do we accept where we are?
For me, it's showing up as oneself without editing or filtering (not trying to fit in but being okay if one doesn't). Not being ashamed or fearful of what others think/say perhaps.
I guess the answer depends on how you feel and what you think. Great questions to ask and ones I've asked myself plenty of times. Also, for me, it's about surrendering - you know that feeling when you slump your shoulders because you're tired of pretending? The answer for me is in those moments. for example, I sometimes suffer from Imposter syndrome, and when I catch myself, I give in and think "feck it, if im exposed, so be it"... But the great thing is, nothing happens! Because it's all constructed in my head to start with.

[L-F]

Another thing for me is not being afraid to be hated. it's so easy to hate others because they are skinny, or fat, or intelligent, or beautiful, or ugly... The point is, everyone dislikes something about others, so don't be afraid of your opinions being right or wrong. Some people love XYZ while others love the opposite. Find the tribe that vibes!

Which is ultimately what Ru Paul is getting at. He helps those who have been bullied for being unique, to own their uniqueness.