OK, today I finally got to talk to another human LIVE(albeit, over the phone) about my situation. She is an LCSW, which is a Licensed Clinical Social worker, the closest I'm going to get to having a therapist with this health care provider. As expected she had not heard of Limerence, but proceeded nonetheless with a typical line of questioning(drugs or alcohol?suicide?domestic violence?)... I told her my story, she pointed out that I should make a concerted effort to re-connect with my wife, as our lifestyle has become divergent. Of course she is right, having a close relationship does fill up the heart with positive feelings, leaving no need to look elsewhere. That will be a challenge. It will also be a challenge for me to resist reaching out to my LO, as I heard today from a mutual friend that in fact LO's husband is basically terminal with his Mesothelioma, having perhaps 6 months to live.
My feelings and mind are ablaze, psych meds would be most welcome right now. Anyway, the LCSW set another phone / video appointment for several weeks from now. One day at a time...