After the disastrous LO/PA/marriage & divorce I was mostly viewing the "what happened" as a series of bad choices, and not as a malfunction in my emotional needs drive. With the present LE resembling the earlier event(less the PA) I began to look critically inward. while googling for answers I came across the Limerence definition, which just fit like a glove. Attachment issues- got 'em, all the other behavioral descriptors- got 'em all! Apparently low Serotonin plays a roll, along with the other OCD maladies.L-F wrote: ↑Mon Jul 26, 2021 2:46 pm Peter, I'm not talking about the 'consequences' of your actions, I'm referring to things you've learned about your self - what drives your limerence, etc. I know you are seeing someone, so hopefully they can help you to unpack it all. If in doubt, David might be an option?
I have another phone appointment with the LCSW, after that I think I can be seen in-person. She is not familiar with Limerence, is instead approaching this as a case of unmet needs from my SO. Sure, that does have merit, and is in fact true. But, that is not the whole story by any means. Getting back to Attachment Theory- like a ticking time bomb the unmet needs(I believe) is connected to the emotional distance with my mother. We were working on that, then cancer took her at age 53, when I was 22. I felt robbed then, as I still do now.