Hey Spadge,Spadge100 wrote: ↑Mon Aug 09, 2021 8:33 am She’s really not one for forums, more of a bury her head in the sand and it will pass kind of person. I don’t know how much she thinks about the other man, and frankly at this stage don’t want to know and prefer it that she is busying herself with real life and trying to stay present.
I go away today with my kids for five days which scares me but I know I have to trust her as she knows the consequences if she strays. I have said at that point I will have to move out and separate, even temporarily. This appears to be the best advice in these situations if SO is stuck in the affair fog. Yes it may push them closer together but so be it.
If you love someone let them go; if it’s right they come back and if they don’t it never was
I was thinking about your SO being on here also and that would just be too weird because that would put both of you here in the same place, unless she wouldn't know what your member name was.
It's good that you will be having time with your kids this week, but will be a balancing act between being present with them and enjoying the moments and overthinking about the situation with SO, what's going on, etc. This alone can drive you insane, but you have a choice in that, and honestly her actions/thoughts are completely out of your control anyway.
So, for now, I send you positivity!
It's also good that you have a back up plan.