Thanks, I think you’re right. My brain lately has been focused on OCD thoughts about work, maybe it just said ‘enough’ and started fixating on Zendaya instead.Zsababy wrote: ↑Sat Feb 12, 2022 7:49 am This is the second post like this that I can relate to. I too have a celebrity crush and it's all-consuming. My psychiatrist isn't sure if it's OCD related (especially the intrusive thoughts) or if it's low-level mania (I'm bipolar) with a dash of hypersexuality.
But I too have pictures on my phone. I follow them on Twitter which is probably the worst thing I could do but I still enjoy it so much.
I too have issues in my relationship. So I think people like us have compensatory fantasies for what is missing or lacking in our relationships. I'm trying to find a therapist to help with this. I suggest you discuss your real-life relationship and where it is lacking.
I think limerance is a mixture of addiction, hard-wiring for intrusive thoughts, and a mental affair and a vacation from boredom all wrapped into one.
I think for people like us it's like how people may drink to deal with & escape from their job: we fantasize to deal or escape our relationship. We just disconnect & avoid reality.
My relationship is alright, my wife is supportive generally but it lacks passion, that could be the problem. We have had some disagreements about family and money too. I try to talk about the lack of passion but we don’t get anywhere. Perhaps the lack of passion is causing me to feel so much passion for Zendaya?