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Great video explaining why we're prone to limerence

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Great video explaining why we're prone to limerence

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This is IMHO of course. Long video but full of shocking thruths for me. In short, childhood trauma or anxious attachment style sets us up for a life long codependent relationships and other addictive behaviours. She doesn't mention limerance per se, but me thinks it's a peculiar form of codependency and addiction and most what she says applies to us all.

Good luck everyone!. The first step is awereness. 🤗

Linky:
"Stop showing up for people who are indifferent to your presence. Stop loving people who aren't ready to love you." ~Sir Anthony Hopkins
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Re: Great video explaining why we're prone to limerence

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JP54 wrote: Tue Jul 12, 2022 11:52 pm The first step is awereness.
As with everything in life. Thanks for the link!
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Re: Great video explaining why we're prone to limerence

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Looks to be an interesting video, have it in my Watch Later list for when I use my treadmill.

In reading the OP and googling for definitions I realized that my understanding and use of the term "codependent relationships" may be inaccurate. Perhaps "co-addiction" is more appropriate to describe my [major] past LE.
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Re: Great video explaining why we're prone to limerence

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Perhaps
Comorbidity.
Or multimorbidity.
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Re: Great video explaining why we're prone to limerence

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L-F wrote: Wed Jul 13, 2022 5:36 pm Perhaps
Comorbidity.
Or multimorbidity.
Sounds like when someone has 2 or more diseases, for example HIV and Hep C.

...what I'm trying to describe is two hell-bound souls hopelessly attached to each other through their mutual mental condition.
Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore.
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Re: Great video explaining why we're prone to limerence

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peter.rabbit wrote: Wed Jul 13, 2022 11:50 pm
...what I'm trying to describe is two hell-bound souls hopelessly attached to each other through their mutual mental condition.
You're right Peter. It's codependency alright. I have it with my SO and it's making our life miserable, but we're making a progress.

At the same time i have been prone to limerance and i think there is clearly a connection. Take a listen to the video and see if it resonates with you. For me, it resonates like crazy. Almost scary.

BTW, codepence means different things these days. It used to be a spouse of chemically dependent person who enebled the addiction.
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peter.rabbit wrote: Wed Jul 13, 2022 11:50 pm ...what I'm trying to describe is two hell-bound souls hopelessly attached to each other through their mutual mental condition.
Woundmates. David has written a shyte load on this and codependency, among other things. I looked up your posts JP54, very interesting read in the members section.
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Re: Great video explaining why we're prone to limerence

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L-F wrote: Wed Jul 20, 2022 8:44 pm I looked up your posts JP54, very interesting read in the members section.
Thanks a lot LF for you kind words. Do you mean my reviews on limerence books? They helped me tremendously even though I was past the worst of the LE. They helped me to understand the process and prevented me from falling into the trap afterwards.
I still suffer from addictive personality and complex ptsd. But that's a different story altogether.
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Happy it has helped you.

Check out what David and other members have posted on this topic, along with other approaches. I'm sure you'll be elevated to a new level of awareness.

Codependency & beyond
http://www.limerence.net/forum/viewtopi ... ency#p9456

Codependency & Limerence
http://www.limerence.net/forum/viewtopi ... ency#p9632

Codependent & Narcissistic
http://www.limerence.net/forum/viewtopi ... ent#p29820

Book about Codependent & Narcissistic Dance
http://www.limerence.net/forum/viewtopi ... ent#p25639

Oh my gosh, the list is endless on here! What's especially good is hearing limerents talk about their experiences; how they have been impacted and what they did to help themselves. So valuable IMO!

All the best on your journey towards healing.
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Re: Great video explaining why we're prone to limerence

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L-F wrote: Wed Jul 20, 2022 8:44 pm
peter.rabbit wrote: Wed Jul 13, 2022 11:50 pm ...what I'm trying to describe is two hell-bound souls hopelessly attached to each other through their mutual mental condition.
Woundmates. David has written a shyte load on this and codependency, among other things. I looked up your posts JP54, very interesting read in the members section.
Woundmates, exactly.
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Intelligent people ignore.
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