Totally agree with. Especially when unaware of why one does what they do.Fiddlestickgoddess wrote: ↑Sun Nov 13, 2022 11:37 pm These strategies have kept us safe and it takes corrective, loving experiences to heal.
On the other hand, I'm talking about being aware and choosing the easier or more pleasurable path.
I know I'm lazy because trying to uncover all there is to uncover and rewire my brain at the same time... Nah. I'm happy being dysfunctional. Understanding and acceptance has helped. I'm also aware of dysfunctional patterns in others (who happened to be responsible for passing poor relational behaviour down the family tree), and, I'm okay with them too! True unconditional acceptance of their f'd-upness. To be honest, don't think I'd want to change them - not that I could, but if I could, I'm weirdly okay with how life shaped them. Intergenerational trauma is a b!t_h.
Not trying to belittle trauma work. I also work in that space, I'm only talking from my experiences and conclusions on this thing called life.