Zsababy wrote: ↑Sun Dec 25, 2022 1:12 pm
As for the weirdness, I think it may be because you're unavailable and this other person has mixed feelings, or is confused or ambivalent, etc. They probably just don't know what to think, what your intentions are and so forth and so are doing a push-pull thing. (If that makes sense). Maybe they told their friends this and they advised to stay away as you are spoken for and this triggered your memories of school days.
Of all possible scenarios or possible answers I found myself to why she did that and avoided me, I didn't think of the possibility of her developing feelings.
But a couple of people told me the same. I still cannot believe it, but well, it could be I guess. She did behave different than in previous stays at the spa and encounters.
I also remember in one session she asked how my "friend" (=SO, she knows her from treatments too) and I met, after telling her, she said she thought we were colleagues, I said nope and that's it.
She doesn't "officially" know we are together, due to idiotic events in the past, we sometimes aren't out in certain places, but she may have guessed/understood in that moment.
So yes, it could explain her weirdness, still not quite sure why she gave me her IG to stay in touch if she didn't want to, but yes, could be that first she thought it's a good idea and then her friends told her it was not.
In my negative scenarios I try to picture her as some kind of evil that did it on purpose, teased me and all that to then hurt me on purpose. This doesn't help to get over her either
And it was probably a bad idea. I do not know what would have happened if we had met at the fair and talked normally for a short while. Then we would both have gone on with our lives, maybe would have written a couple of texts, reacted to some IG stuff but that's it. I doubt we would have arranged to meet. We do not know each other that much and it would be weird due to the "professional" or patient/therapist relationship.
(and I surely do not want to cheat or leave my SO or anything like that!)
Thanks for this too, it helped to put things in another perspective.