Ever wonder if you're somebody else's LO?

[Keater]

For sure. One guy I barely knew tattooed my name on his arm, and spelled it incorrectly. Mega creepy. Another guy I was friends with, before he proposed to his now wife, and it had been quite a while since we had even hung out and we weren’t as close, he came around to like see if we had a chance? He never even told me he felt that way ever, so it kind of blindsided me (at the time). I was young and dumb and should have seen it coming in hindsight.
And some others. I don’t know if necessarily limerent. Hard to say. I was never really limerent until I was older and got married.
I never knew what to look for before but I wonder it now sometimes!
Although other times I feel so unattractive and old that it makes me wonder if I could ever even be somebody’s LO.

[Zsababy]

Wow, the tattooing is disturbing. At least we can say we haven't gone that far! Yikes.

The engaged guy sounds kind of sad, like his fiance was Plan B. At least he found out before marrying her.

In retrospect, I think I consciously turned a blind eye to guys' attraction because I wanted to be friends, which is unconsciously hurtful. But it's also painful to lose a friend and I'm not great at making friends & preferred male friends as my female friends would use me like a therapist the way my mom did as a child. So I found guys didn't like to talk about their issues so much.

Now that I've learned about limerance I can see that some guys have turned a blind eye to me.

[JupiterTaco]

Wow, the tattooing is disturbing. At least we can say we haven't gone that far! Yikes.

The engaged guy sounds kind of sad, like his fiance was Plan B. At least he found out before marrying her.

In retrospect, I think I consciously turned a blind eye to guys' attraction because I wanted to be friends, which is unconsciously hurtful. But it's also painful to lose a friend and I'm not great at making friends & preferred male friends as my female friends would use me like a therapist the way my mom did as a child. So I found guys didn't like to talk about their issues so much.

Now that I've learned about limerance I can see that some guys have turned a blind eye to me.

I can relate to that...

[peter.rabbit]

Ever wonder if you're somebody else's LO?

I've wondered about this, gonna say "no". If someone in fact was Limerent over me, they did a great job of concealing it.

[Yesnomaybeso]

I have been someone else's LO and it was not fun. I didn't realise until after that that was happening. It felt like I was stuck in an emotional tornado and it took me a while to be able to get myself out of it. They eventually moved on to someone else and things got better. We're friends now and honestly I see they have this pattern. They get limerence way worse than I ever have. But yh I'd say being an LO isn't fun unless you're narcissistic (possibly).

[townshend]

I have been the LO with a big emphasis on the O considering the bare amount of interaction with the person compared to their over ruminating, over sharing with others about his thoughts centered around, over emphasizing and blowing things out of proportion for years. Not a good time. Especially as I’ve been aware and have tried to move on and tell him to do the same.

My advice: don’t burden LO with your personal projection problem. Solve it yourself.